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Going with the flow

It was fairly early on in our relationship and Andrew introduced this notion of going with the flow. I am a planner. I have always looked at an empty day as filled with opportunities to cram activity in every hour – no, every last minute. This is especially true when traveling.

Meeting Andrew however changed my approach to life in a meaningful way.

Starting Small

Not long after we first met, we began to spend entire weekends together. We lived 70 miles apart and often times it wasn’t worth splitting weekends at each other’s apartment. What became readily apparent was my tendency to plan these weekends with gusto, given they came at a high premium with the commute. In very much the same way as my friends who have children, and their weekends are non-stop with back-to-back activities, our weekends often become more exhausting than the work week. 

At some point, Andrew asked the question, “Why don’t we just take it easy. We’ll play the weekend by ear. When we wake up Saturday morning, let’s see how we feel. And then we can decide what we want to do.” 

The planner in me paused, reflected on this suggestion and replied, “Yes, why not?”

In effect, I was starting to open up to the possibilities that come with going with the flow…

“All things change, nothing is extinguished. There is nothing in the whole world which is permanent. Everything flows onward; all things are brought into being with a changing nature; the ages themselves glide by in constant movement.”



“Be still like a mountain and flow like a great river.”

Lao Tzu